I got an email from Carmen in Troy Michigan who is frustrated because her boyfriend has a problem with premature ejaculations. I once dated a guy who used to cum after one or two thrusts in my pussy. He was very embarrassed when it happened even though I told him not to worry. The first time it happened, I was actually flattered to think the guy was so turned on by me that he shot his load as soon as he got inside me. After it happened several times I realized he had a problem. His dick would go limp as soon as he shot his load and he made no effort to get me off so I lost interest in him and we stopped seeing each other. From what I have learned, premature ejaculation can be caused by both mental and physical factors. The problem can be helped with medication and certain techniques. I am no expert, but I have put together a number of excellent links on the subject.
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The Squeeze Technique
The squeeze technique involves halting stimulation at the point just before orgasm (either through intercourse or masturbation). The man or his partner places a thumb on the frenulum (the connecting skin at the tip and right under the head of the penis) and apply pressure to the head of the penis with the other fingers. Hold the squeeze until the urge to ejaculate subsides. Then he can resume stimulation and repeat the process until ejaculation is desired.
The Stop Technique
The stop technique is very similar to the squeeze technique in that it involves bringing the man to the point of orgasm and then halting the sensation. The difference is that the stop technique requires only that stimulation stops. It is not necessary to apply pressure to any part of penis. After stimulation is stopped and the urge to orgasm fades, resume stimulation and repeat the process until orgasm is desired.
To successfully subdue premature ejaculation, a man may need to use both techniques over the course of 6 to 12 months, maybe longer. The techniques may be used later in life if the problem arises again.
Both techniques are designed to make the man aware of his varying levels of arousal and to understand what his body is feeling so that he will be able to control his bodily urges in a more fulfilling way.
